So we are into February now – and I think this is typically the time where people really start to give up on those resolutions they set at the beginning of the new year.
It’s interesting that I wrote an article about not really setting resolutions but just getting a few things right – saying no, being present and just getting on the other things – it’s funny how even a simple thing like that can be hard to achieve.
For example, I have not said no to as many things as I should have done and I did allow other people to decide what I do with my time by doing this. Especially the last week where, despite starting my new non-working day every two weeks, I have probably had a hellish week to compensate!
So I gave myself a massively hard time over it and this is what I concluded by the end of it!
Firstly – it’s ok to not be doing very well in this area. If you are trying to make a change, often that’s not easy. Sometimes I think we give up because it’s not going exactly as we expected and hoped for when we decided to start doing this. It is even worse when you are surrounded by media showing everyone around you doing brilliantly. Don’t let a bad start put you off. If you fail, learn from it and try again!
Secondly – we can be too ambitious when setting goals for change. Ambition is not a bad thing – but I’m giving myself a hard time about not getting things done perfectly. It was fitting I read this article about keeping focused on small improvements and keeping a record to see how you are doing (and if you notice any reasons why things don’t go to plan as well).
Thirdly – sometimes you just have to give yourself a pat on the back for small progress. So, for example, today, on my non-working day, I didn’t check my work email/phone. That’s an example of me saying “no” and focusing on the right things. Doesn’t sound an amazing feat – but actually, it is progress and it feels pretty good to have done it!
So if you’ve set yourself goals and feel like you’re failing – reset, start off small and celebrate those small victories – and if you’re anything like me, you’ll need to repeat this a few times before you really get going!